Quote from: Subsonic_Noise on October 19, 2011, 10:10:09 pm
It might occasionally be that you are sourrounded by assholes, but if you can't find any good friends you aren't looking well enough.
This.
Quote from: ForeverZer0 on October 19, 2011, 11:37:54 pm
You have control over your own emotions and thoughts. The best way to stop thinking negative, is to just stop thinking negative. Think about positive things, and your attitude will change.
And this. Also, don't even think about not negative stuff but really the positive stuff. Don't think "People around me are not mean.", instead think "People around me are nice." It's a psychological effect (can't remember the name) like when I tell you to not think about a pink elephant. You just thought of a pink elephant.
There are two reasons why you think that everybody around you is an idiot. The first one is that you are insecure that you are inadequate so you protect your ego by simply saying that everybody is an idiot. Not everybody is an idiot. Maybe one out of 20 people is an idiot. The rest of the people are usually alright. And there's nothing wrong with not being smart or something. I strongly suggest that you socialize. You don't have to go out and find some best friends for life (these things take time), but go out and meet some new people. Take an interest in them. They don't have to be amazing to be alright to hang out with.
The only times when I dream that I beat somebody up (very, very rarely actually try to kill them) is when it's about people from my past in who I never found a liking. I don't hate them, but I don't like them either. I dislike them. And I don't try to beat them up every time I dream about them. Maybe in 1-2 times out of 10. That combined with me rarely dreaming about them, I probably have such a dream maybe 3-4 times a year if even that often.
Summary: Socialize, meet new people. The world isn't that bad. And you're not that much above others. Just accept them as they are, there's nothing wrong with them (in relative concept).
Quote from: winkio on October 19, 2011, 08:49:21 pm
Becoming an outcast is a self-inflicted wound.
I disagree. It doesn't have to be self-inflicted. But either way you are responsible for not taking care of that wound in the long run.
Your own actions define you as well as the actions of others on you. But you are the one responsible how they define you and to what degree. Basically it's a similar concept like the one you explained, but it's extended by the degree that there are things out of your control and that you have to accept them, but you can still control how they affect you. Basically in the sense of what you said earlier somewhere that you are responsible for your own actions and that you can control only yourself. Everything else (including other people) you have to accept as they are. And that is hard sometimes.