In Psych I'm learning about "Locus of controls" which is "Do you think you control your fate or do you think other people or things control your fate?" An internal locus of control means you feel you are, yourself, capable of controlling what happens to you. An external is the opposite, where you think things simply happen to you without your control.
But one thing I'm noticing is that, certain people... well, when I care about certain people, it sparks a catalyst within me that makes me begin to change myself. It takes weeks to be noticeable, but then I see how it happened. The context of this is a few weeks ago I met someone. We're now pretty close friends and they've had a significantly harder life than I have. I'm becoming inspired to finally take life seriously. I've suffered from a lack of motivation and I have been consistently feeling like a horrible person because with all I was given and all I have, I squander it by refusing to take life seriously.
It's too easy for me, in some cases. I have no outward reason to struggle and I don't care much about being a well-known famously successful person. So I don't care about being super competitive in the work force or having the best grades in school. It's just not how I work. But now... my motivation is to a worthy individual. I'm beginning to think "I need to prove I deserve what I have. It's time to stop coasting." but hasn't yet fully hit me in the face. I've thought similar things in the past, but this is the closest its come to seriously having a major impact on the way I think of things. And the urge only grows by the day. I kind of fucked myself for a few classes in this semester of school, but I'm damn sure I'll be motivated for the next quarter. I'll have to drop a few online responsibilities and neglect a bunch of fun activities but I believe I can make myself do DAMN FINE at school and even do odd jobs to earn money on the side.
I already tutor a 4th grader. Maybe I'll tutor more aspie kids, I seem to be fine with it so far. So yeah. I think my issue so far is that my locus of control has been... undecided. I knew I could affect myself and the way things happened to me but also believed that a large portion of what happens to me is simply beyond my control. And I need to shift that "No Locus of Control" into an "internal" one.