Quote from: SBR* on January 06, 2012, 04:33:30 am
IMO, THAT's just an excuse, turned and twisted so it makes sense. The fact that you didn't want to have a relationship with a girl, who already had a boyfriend, might also have to do with the unrighteousness that's combined with that.
You are using a double negative to make sense instead of providing an actual reason. Besides, I don't think you understood my post. I wrote that it was an excuse and I hid behind a moral value to appear good and saint and all that shit instead of doing what I truly believed in even if it is the opposite of what some moral values teach. You fail to realize that I have been at point A and now I'm at point B which gives me an actual perspective where you have never been at point B and are only assuming how point B is like. Whether you realize it or not, this is what a narrow-minded opinion is. You ASSUME how point B is like without knowing and you form an opinion without basing it on anything real.
EDIT: That reminds me of a quote that I saw in Skyrim. IDK if they took it from somewhere else: "Is it better to be born good or to be born evil and overcome the evil?" I think the latter is better, because if you have seen both sides, you have a better perspective on things. Someone who hasn't seen both sides of the coin can't possibly have the same depth of belief. I'm not saying that everybody with "good" beliefs is just scared from trying the opposite or that they are hiding, but they are usually judgmental which means that they are hiding behind their belief. Heck, I was doing it, I should know.
Quote from: SBR* on January 06, 2012, 04:33:30 am
I have thought about this for a while, and came up with two examples I know of in real life:
1) My father once had a friend, who had had a relationship for a long time. A famous person tried to seduce the girlfriend for ages and ages, until she finally fell for him.
2) A boy had a relationship with a girl. One day, she came home and told him she had fallen in love with someone else.
IMO, person 1 is an asshole. He actively tried to ruin the relationship. However, in 2, the girl fell in love with someone else; a happening that is inevitable. In other words, we shouldn't ask ourselves whether or not it's correct to steal a girlfriend, but WHEN it is.
You are still looking for a justification for what you do so that you can rationalize it afterwards. "Oh, I did it only, because it just happened." "Oh, I did it only, because she wasn't happy in her relationship." "Oh, I did it only, because she liked me more anyway." That's a prime example for an excuse, nothing else. From your point of view to me it seems that you don't believe in stealing girlfriends, but you leave yourself loopholes so that you can do it anyway which is hypocritical. Either you do it or you don't. There are no small exceptions where you are allowed to go against something you believe in.
EDIT: In your first statement you are being judgmental of the guy and you are labeling him as an asshole. Just because he is famous and she finally fell for him, doesn't mean he's an asshole. Don't you think after so much time the woman would have realized that he's an asshole if he was one? You are yet again making a judgment without knowing the whole story.
2nd EDIT: Before you misunderstand here something. I am not judging you and I am not saying that you are hypocritical or hiding behind your beliefs. It's just that I have seen enough cases to notice indicators so I am merely pointing out the possibilities for you. It's your call whether you will accept my criticism or not and it's your call what you will do about it. It happened to me that I deemed certain criticism as untrue for many, many times and at one time I realized that it's been true all along and that I was just denying it. You could say that it was hidden deep under layers and layers of rationalizations and justifications, because I cared too much what others think of me.