Yeah, constant longing to know the other person might be key. "Marriage" should just be a commitment to learning your spouse for the rest of your life. It just sucks for you if you married a lame-o who stopped growing as a person and has nothing new to ever offer.
And yeah, girls probably do enjoy talkin' over other activities, but who's to say that's actually best? If you go on adventures with the gal, you'll end up talkin' at points, and you'll have that adventure that'll belong to the two of you foreverrrr.