So... I'm stuck in a very bad situation.
My younger brother Shawn just got married and is going to be moving out the 2nd or 3rd of Aug once his wife (who's military) gets on base housing...
If by that time I don't find a job....
The net will be shut off, and I'll no longer be around until by some magical means I find a job in a state (Florida) that has one of the lowest employment rates in the us.
Why is the net being shut off? Not really due to money issues, but because my step dad has "no use for it" after his BLOOD son moves out. Yeah the internet was only for him, me using it is seen as a 'privilege'. Even though with no net it means reducing my hopes for finding a job even more sense most places around ere only do online apps now.
I was even taken out to a plaza and dropped off, in the Florida heat and had to walk to all the places in the area... Those that didn't tell me that they were not hiring... told me to apply on their website.
So... I am screwed. I also just got a call back from one place I was so hopping for saying I failed their personality assessment? I can't apply again for 60 days, and by then their open position will be filled and my app will just be thrown into the pile.
I am sick of being ridiculed as a 'freeloader' by my step dad and treated like I'm a little kid by him, no joke, I'm 28 and he treats me like I don't know anything... Plus being treated like it's MY fault no one is hiring? He argues that if I was really 'doing it right' I'd be having a lot of calls and interviews right now. I put in over 90 applications both online and paper in the last two months, most these places are just 'always accepting applications' and are not actively hiring, but it's my fault still there not.
My step dad is the abusive type... the type that has to be always right while everyone else is always wrong, everything has to be HIS way and god forbid if you prove him wrong on something. But it's hard to stay out of his way at times.
My mom is often gets the blunt of his rage, god even asking him a question it turns into an argument that he starts. But she suffers from Multiple sclerosis and has no means to get away, she can hardly walk as is.
I am so stressed here. I wish I could be anywhere else but here, and even mom warned me it'll be worse once Shawn leaves.
So if by Aug you may not find me around, not on here, not by email, not even by messenger.
SO, looks like I'll have a lot of free time on my hands, more 'freeloading' to do and more being blamed for some how controlling the work force and killing all the jobs around. I'm gathering together all the XP scrips I can and making sure ones I use are up to date so I can at least spar my boredom by working on my game when not fighting the blazing heat walking from place to place in a hopeless hunt for work.
That and Minecraft.... least I can play that offline.
Ah the beauty of the real world. Well, good luck with all that :)
I'm really sorry to hear about your bad situation, Taiine. I know how it is to have problems with your father. You're even in a worse situation, because he's not your actual father. I wish you the best of luck that you can sort out your problems. Hang in there. If you think that I can help you with some advice, don't hesitate to ask.
I'm willing to take any advice right now... but what I really need is a job. A nice solid job that I can live off of and get the hell out of here and perhaps take my mom with me.
As is I get food stamps, but GUESS WHO CONTROLS THE CARD. Yep.. fucking step dad took the card from me because (again treating me like a little kid) assumes I'd only buy junk food and candy and crap rather than real food.
His blood son can do no wrong, doesn't have to lift a finger around here and neither does he. When Shawn comes home from work he goes right into his room and plays WOW on his computer, when step dad comes home he goes onto the couch or bedroom and SLEEPS all day. Guess who does all the chores? Vacuuming, mopping, garbage, dishes, laundry. ME. Yet he still accuses me of just sitting on my ass all day and 'doing bullshit on the computer'. I joke with mom saying it must be the magical pixies doing all the work around here.
Playing games or doing -anything- on my laptop that is NOT looking at job sites (and refreshing them and looking at them all over again x.x it don't take that long to go through them and look at the same listings every day) is pretty much forbidden. As is I'm sneaking just to type this. If I am not looking for work I have 'no reason' to be on my laptop.
My step dad's biggest hobby is to ASSUME everything. This going along with the 'hes always right' about everything. He assumes I don't take my arthritis med's everyday because he 'counted them' and there were more then there should be, ignoring that the bottle says take once a WEEK. He assumes I don't shower or change my cloths every day (I swear he must be blind) because I 'flake' a lot from 'untreated dandruff' when it's fucking Psoriasis (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psoriasis) and that I can't HELP but flake all the time @.x (it's spread all over my face too, further hindering my hopes of finding a job)
So... ugh... this is turning into a rant. But it also feels good to get a lot of the BS going on here off my chest.
I so badly want to get out of here. >.<
Yeah, the job market is bullshit at all levels. For example, trying to get a summer internship, everybody wants you to have a lot of prior work experience, when the whole point of getting summer internships in the first place is for students without work experience to get some. You just have to keep at it until you find something.
well, I fell for you man, I've put in over a 120 applications this summer and haven't gotten any thing either, also I have Psoriasis as well so I know exactly what that's like. I wish you luck years 10 years older than me so I'm fairly sure any advise I might give would be useless but I wish you luck all the same.
the only this I can suggest to make it better is to get him to understand that your not being lazy. as blowing up is far more likely to get you kicked out but perhaps just start selectively dropping chores until he notices just how much you actually do from day to day. of course you have to be careful that when he finally dose notice you don't get in to a fight and kicked out but doing nothing and just letting it happen wont change any thing. there are always risked involved in change.
again I'm 10 years younger than you and have never had to deal with a situation quite as bad as yours so take my life advise with a grain of salt... perhaps a few grains
Have you tried it the other way around? Instead of refreshing job sites and applying for wanted jobs, you could simply send out CVs to companies to would employ you based on your expertise without them actually looking for somebody specifically to fill a position. To my experience many companies do that. You could say that only the "desperate" companies put up ads. Google around to find companies where you could work (such as, IDK, NTH Media if they have a branch in the US). Most of them usually have a "Contact us" or a "Career" link on their main page where you can apply for a job.
I have tried something like that Bliz, opening the phone book and calling places as well as searching places online.
I am three years out of a tech collage with a Associate Degree in Specialized Technology, majoring in website and graphic design. I also did freelance photography and have done photo shoots for sporting events, schools, churches. I also have volunteer work under my belt. I also did webdesign freelance for 14 years prier to going to school to get a degree to further make it into a career. While in school we also were required a minimum one freelance job per term to give us the experience we needed.
But sadly with the experience I have, most employers don't see it as the type of experience they are looking for. A.k.a a 'full time 8 to 5' job experience working for a company even though one of my volunteer jobs was just that, though more like 5am to 2pm job (ASPCA, loved it). One such employer expressed their worry over a lack of 'full time' experience and even though I ranked highest on their HTML quiz, had nice code samples and was only one to bring in a book portfolio as well as a laptop to demonstrate sites in action... it all came down to that the experience I have wasn't the type of experience they were looking for. That is the only thing that kept me from getting the job.
I tell you, that was a crushing blow, a blow I've experienced with others as well.
One employer I found was looking for entry level -no experience required- people to join them in marketing, all training provided. They interviewed two people at a time... I was asked ONE question. 'How do you rate your communication skills' I didn't lie, I'm very good at it, I loved public speaking in collage and gave what I thought was a nice example of one such speech I had to do for one of my freelance jobs. But I could tell he was more interested in the other person who all he asked was 'when are you available to start'. Uh huh... I wasn't surprised when after just a few minutes from walking in I was walking back out... The other girl stayed for more questions.
Fucking stereo types.
Quote from: Taiine on July 17, 2011, 05:03:49 pm
I'm willing to take any advice right now... but what I really need is a job. A nice solid job that I can live off of and get the hell out of here and perhaps take my mom with me.
As is I get food stamps, but GUESS WHO CONTROLS THE CARD. Yep.. fucking step dad took the card from me because (again treating me like a little kid) assumes I'd only buy junk food and candy and crap rather than real food.
His blood son can do no wrong, doesn't have to lift a finger around here and neither does he. When Shawn comes home from work he goes right into his room and plays WOW on his computer, when step dad comes home he goes onto the couch or bedroom and SLEEPS all day. Guess who does all the chores? Vacuuming, mopping, garbage, dishes, laundry. ME. Yet he still accuses me of just sitting on my ass all day and 'doing bullshit on the computer'. I joke with mom saying it must be the magical pixies doing all the work around here.
Playing games or doing -anything- on my laptop that is NOT looking at job sites (and refreshing them and looking at them all over again x.x it don't take that long to go through them and look at the same listings every day) is pretty much forbidden. As is I'm sneaking just to type this. If I am not looking for work I have 'no reason' to be on my laptop.
My step dad's biggest hobby is to ASSUME everything. This going along with the 'hes always right' about everything. He assumes I don't take my arthritis med's everyday because he 'counted them' and there were more then there should be, ignoring that the bottle says take once a WEEK. He assumes I don't shower or change my cloths every day (I swear he must be blind) because I 'flake' a lot from 'untreated dandruff' when it's fucking Psoriasis (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psoriasis) and that I can't HELP but flake all the time @.x (it's spread all over my face too, further hindering my hopes of finding a job)
So... ugh... this is turning into a rant. But it also feels good to get a lot of the BS going on here off my chest.
I so badly want to get out of here. >.<
I know exactly how you feel & felt. Previous situation when my parents were together, little brother and older brother never had to do anything. I had to cook most of the time and my mom didn't even have a job. At that time my dad was really the only person I enjoyed having around. My mom spoiled my brothers. Eventually my dad and mom starting arguing, and I mean a lot! Then out of nowhere a divorce. Was gone for a few months, me, my dad, and my little brother moving into a new house, took awhile to get internet. My dad's always working so again I'm stuck with the chores and stuff. My little brother still doesn't have to do anything and hardly gets in trouble. I've had tons of arguing with my dad and he acts as if I don't do enough. He says the crap I do is nothing compared to as he puts it "the real world". He's dealing with a divorce, lost a woman he really cared about. I myself handled the divorce part pretty well, never really liked my mom. Things are finally starting to work out though. Things with my dad are going a lot better and lifes finally feeling pretty good. Though a depressing off topic, my girlfriends moving away in a few days, we've been going out with each other for a little over a year, known each other since kindergarten. Meh.
Hey look! I'm ranting too! :D Anyways, hang in there, we all support you!
@Taiine: Aw, man. You're really out of luck. :/ Well, all I can say is that you mustn't give up. Keep looking, you'll find a job. I know you will. :)
Thanks all... Yeah I feel like my back's to a brick wall. I've filled out a lot of online apps, called places, as well as walked around place to place looking for work.. something NOT easy with my arthritis in my ankles, knees and lower back. It took me 4 hours to walk a plaza in omg humidity!
I just about if not have covered every location with in a 10-15 mile radios from home. It's sad when even fast food has no openings :/ Most places that do are only looking for temp 'back to school' employees a.k.a students needing/wanting a small job on the side.
Bahhh....
Anyone want a roommate who lives in a state that may actually have jobs who understands it don't take every waking moment of your existence to look for work and allows some FUN AND RELAXATION every once in a while?!
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I am incredibly sorry you're having to go through this. :(
Quote from: Taiine on July 18, 2011, 02:50:33 am
Anyone want a roommate who lives in a state that may actually have jobs who understands it don't take every waking moment of your existence to look for work and allows some FUN AND RELAXATION every once in a while?!
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That'd be cool, to say the least. Just one problem:
"Mom, Dad... can a 28 year old woman from the internet move in with us?" The rest after that is pretty predictable.
If I asked my dad that and he said yes, my face.
(http://i871.photobucket.com/albums/ab279/bedsidecreeper/meme%20faces%20part%203/tn-tumblr_l9qoetPKDe1qzzud0.jpg)
Seriously good luck man. Life's a bitch, slap it back. >:U
Quote from: game_guy on July 18, 2011, 09:13:45 am
If I asked my dad that and he said yes, my face.
(http://i871.photobucket.com/albums/ab279/bedsidecreeper/meme%20faces%20part%203/tn-tumblr_l9qoetPKDe1qzzud0.jpg)
Seriously good luck man. Life's a bitch, slap it back. >:U
Taiine is a respectable woman. D:<
I call everybody a man and a dude. Its typical retardation of the teenage language. Whens the last time you heard someone, especially a teenager, say "Whats up dudette?" or "How's it going woman." It seems odd. But I guess this is a special case.
Hang in there woman. :3
Quote from: game_guy on July 18, 2011, 09:30:15 am
I call everybody a man and a dude. Its typical retardation of the teenage language. Whens the last time you heard someone, especially a teenager, say "Whats up dudette?" or "How's it going woman." It seems odd. But I guess this is a special case.
Hang in there respectable woman. :3
Fixed.
Quote from: game_guy on July 18, 2011, 09:30:15 am
"How's it going woman."
What's wrong with that? "Make me a sandwich, woman!" :V
Taiine, I'm very sorry to hear this and I wish you the best of luck finding a job.
I have never had to deal with these kinds of situations, so I can't give you any advise but to make the best of it. Good luck and try to have fun nevertheless!
May I rant for a moment? I think I will.
So two days ago I was made to walk yet ANOTHER plaza on a hopeless hunt for work, well more like three of them.. Not a shock to find no one hiring though did out apps in places that are 'always accepting applications' >.>
I started this at 9am. I finished at 3pm, though I hung out at a subway (no money for food sadly) for about an hour of that around noon because it was freaking hot out even with an overcast sky. I am baking, my feet were killing me and I was hungry and even feeling a bit light headed. All I had was one PP&J before heading out because he was in such a hurry to have me go and didn't want to wait for me to eat a real breakfast before he drove me down to the nearest buss stop.
When I finally got home my step dad asked how many places I went to. I told him all of them, because that is what I did. Low and behold the asshole accuses me a lieing and states AND I QUOTE "You could not have walked all of that in two hours."
SOMEONE TELL ME W-T-F?! Sense when is 9am, to 3pm TWO HOURS? Apparently once he got home from dropping me off at the buss stop he went to sleep, and thinks I was gone only 4 hours, assuming the buss trip took an hour to and from. No, the buss was only 15 mins one way due to the morning stops and 9 mins back with hardly any stops. >.>
On top of that he's bitching because I am heavily limping. Why? Because during my 'two hour' walk, I developed a blister on the bottom of my left heal that was the size of two quarters and due to a misstep, it burst. It fucking HURT (and is still rather tender today). That is also my bad ankle that has a bone that likes to pop out of place and grind, plus a fracture to the bone leading to the 'ring' tow that has never really healed. So yes I can't put much weight on that foot at all. Yet I shouldn't have any reason for limping around according to him.
On top of that we had boxed pizza for dinner. Medium ones, mom and the ass split one... Shawn? He got to take now only his half of one, but also half of my share. Leaving me with one slice, or a quarter of the pizza. On top of that the asshole suggested mom make Shawn something more to go along on the side!
I'm always the last one to get their share in this house, and that share is often a small portion. Hell I've already been bitched at for 'eating everything' when I haven't even gotten my share yet! The reason being when Shawn goes off to work he fills a large storage container up with whatever we are having. He's pretty much taking two meals with him to work and leaving me with the scraps!
Yeah, I've had a lot of hungry nights. >.>; In fact, today? Mac and tuna, and only enough left over to fill my bowl half way. Not allowed to make something else later on either else I'm bitched at for eating all the food in the house and how they don't have the money to blow to feed my ass.
I wanted to lose some weight anyway, but this is not how I planed on doing it >.<
Favoritism much?! Oh yeah Shawn is the BIG MAN ex-military (got out after a heart attack) who is *gasp* Doing an online collage to be an accountant! HES MAKING SOMETHING OF HIMSELF unlike me! Yeah like my Associate Degree in Specialized Technology, and my four awards mean jack shit. >.>; I would have been military as well if not being diagnosed with bad arthritis in my knees, ankles, lower back and left elbow. I'd never pass the physical.
Not like it would have mattered. I'm not related to the ass by blood. I'm just a 'tack on' that he gets to treat like a mentally handicap child because of my inability to find a job.
.....okay rant over. Got that off my chest....
Least I'm home alone right now (yeah never get to go anywhere unless it's out walking to find work) so I can sort of relax and try to de-stress (and sneak some fucking food!). @.x
I need to get a job and get out of here ;.;
Last time I checked, humans are required to eat food to live. So here is my advice:
Next time you want to keep yourself alive(aka, eat some food), and you go and get some food, and they complain? Tell them, tell them you are not going to take their shit, and you WILL eat.
You tell them, how this makes you feel, how much it pisses you off. Do not take shit from anyone, not from faggot step dad, nor his faggot son, not even your very own flesh and blood mom. The fact she can treat you that way, over those two people sickens me. And something needs to be done. I am pretty sure there's some kind of law that punishes those who abuse the disabled, which they really are doing to you. It's sickening, seriously sickening. So probably try looking in to that?
Also, if I were in this situation, I would handle it in a way most would find extreme(do keep in mind this is not a joke, and I recommend you to NOT try it):
I would snap pictures of myself in the nude, crying immensely, with what appears to be the cameraman holding a knife in view of the camera to me.
I would then take those pictures and stash them anywhere my mom could find them easily, and then hilarity ensues as the dad is accused. But I recommend nobody to ever try this, unless the situation is really fucked up.
(and if anyone is wondering why I even threw that out there, it's just an option for when things like I said, get really fucked up and you need revenge)
I'm really, really sorry.
Me and that asshole step dad have already butted heads once when he accused me of not taking my meds 'everyday' (the bottle says ONCE A WEEK learn to read you #@$#^&IP) and thus not 'being part of the family' and how I never do anything but sit on my ass... Again it must be magic pixies doing the dishes, vacuuming, mopping, laundry, trash... Yeah apparently I never take out the trash just because ONE night the can was literality swarming with ants and I am highly allergic to ants and there was no way I was touching it. He yells that I was lazy for not doing it and bcause of that one day he goes on and says how I have 'never' taken out the trash.
Sad part is he has already threatened to throw me out onto the streets. Or toss me into juvenile hall or toss me into foster care. Yeah, not joking. Just shows he see's me as a little kid when I'm fucking 28!
I would not mind going to a shelter if I knew I would not be stranded there. But the shelters down here only hold you in at night, once morning comes you have to take your items and go, then return at night IF there is a bed available. I would have to walk with my items to a chirch or some place I dunno where to get a free meal then wonder the streets in florda heat until I could go back, and if they had no open beds? I don't think I could survive going into a shelter. Yes I have looked into this sadly. :( Only way I'd have a room would be if I had kids.
I wish I could just hug you. :(
I am very sorry all of this is happening to you. :(
I wish for away out.
I would be lieing if I said I also never thought of suicide as away out. But I know that's a cowards way to go.
I just keep dreaming of a day when I can find a nice paying job, get out on my own, find a small apartment and really live for the first time in my life.
Thats a dream that keeps me going, but every job rejection cracks a little more off that dream.
I wish I could help somehow. This is so fucked up that it makes even me depressed.
I seriously wish there was a way I could help too, and if there was, I would not hesitate to do so if it was in my abilities. D:
Some money would help. >.< Really. My step dad put his foot down last month and told me hes not spending HIS money on me. If I need any personal stuff (shampoo, 'monthly' suplies etc) then I have to get a job and pay for it myself.
It's his way of trying to make me find a job, because in his head I'm not trying hard enough. Like that would REALLY change the fact that no one is freaking hiring in this god damned state. Oh yeah denying me any personals is going to magicly change the economy for the better and get this country out of debt and open up more jobs! >.>
What a fucking idiot. I seriously wish I could meet this guy. I would punch him in his damn face... over and over. D:
wow, this is really messed up. I don't have a job either but I do have money to my name. I could spare something like $25 that would at least help get you the stuff you need for a month. I can only really use paypal so if you have a paypal account connected to a checking account that you could transfer the money form the paypal to checking so you could use the money locally we could set something up.
I do have paypal but no checking account to my name. I could withdraw the money via check. thats about it.
my paypal donation link (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=5A33VTRPGGSE6)
:/
well, there you go, $25. I hope it helps.
Thanks *reads the name* Ben? :3 It will help some. Any idea how long paypal takes to mail a check to you?
MORE RANT TIME!
I just did the dishes, everything but one large glass baking dish that always feel okward handling, it's heavy and I'm always scared I'll drop it. Mom always washes it. Well I finish, mom comes out and starts up on the dish, guess who comes out, see's mom at the sink and yells at me for 'You know you could help out and do the dishes once in a while!"
RAGEEEEE. Fuck sakes I'm the ONLY one that does them here! WTF ARF;HSGNVACMJASUTGNH834Q374PTQN3URGUHDBHVD.
I've donated $25.- too. I'm sure you'll spend it wisely :).
I'm really sorry to hear all this... Don't even the employment offices hire you?
*hugs tight* Yes thank you, it will be used on thing's I need. I'm down to a half a bottle of shampoo and been sneaking use of others to make it last >.< Plus 'monthly' supplies and any other little thing's I need. The only thing the ass is willing to spend his oh mighty money on me is for my meds that he thinks I'm not taking (though I wonder if hed put his foot down on that too). Yeahh if I'm not why do I need a refill?!
(STORY TIME!)
Two years ago I was diagnosed Symmetric Psoriatic arthritis (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psoriatic_arthritis), something I suffered from sense 14 years of age but doctors kept just brushing it off as ohh I pulled something because I was heavily into sports. Or it was this causing the joint pain or that. A few times I had to sit out a game when I was in softball because my knees were burning. (at this point my Psoriasis was isolated to just my scalp)
The pain was manageable up until I went into collage in 05. Something during then made it flair up and I went from running the halls jogging up the stairs to get to class's to having to walk and take the elevator near graduation in 08. My weight balooned in that time as my mobility was going down hill and doctors went from saying I pulled this or strained that to 'Oh it's your weight, lose it and the pain will go away'. vnskhls;r;ahtgjvdr4w8tyvq34 It was so bad I couldn't get up off the bed one night and was sobbing. It was also in school that my Psoriasis invaded my forehead and started to really spread.
In 09 I was taken to the emergency room because my left elbow became nearly locked in place in a bent position. The joint had become so inflamed it could not be moved, and it was there that one of the doctors suspected psoriatic arthritis and recommended me to a specialist.
He was the first doctor to take what was happening seriously and not blame the weight, he was shocked at how long it had gone untreated or undiagnosed. I had full body xrays taken and yeah, it's pretty advanced. Much longer with how much joint damage I had and pain I was in I was facing life in a whealchair very soon. He then told me of another person he treated that has the same thing as he and was bedridden.
Strong Meds and determination have kept me on my feet. So you can imagen the ASS making me WALK these plazas in search for work are not in no way easy for me. Why it took 4 hours to walk one. x.x I still may face a future in a whealchair and that's scary.
Oh as for my left arm. The joint damage and inflammation that locked it in place left it partly crippled. While I can bend the joint again, it's only a about half the motion it use to have. I can't straiten it out nor can I fully bend it. I can't touch my shoulder at all (finger tips stop about 3 inches from my shoulder) with it no matter how I bend the arm and if I hold my arms out striate my left if I put my hands together my left hand would stop just short of my right wrist. (give an idea of the rage x.x)
That sucks! And I am also confused why you have not taken the prick to court yet for the abuse he's giving you?
that's not how the real world works. You need money and time to take someone to court. And your own mode of transportation. And something to do while you wait for the case to be processed before the hearing.
Quote from: winkio on July 29, 2011, 04:06:58 pm
that's not how the real world works. You need money and time to take someone to court. And your own mode of transportation. And something to do while you wait for the case to be processed before the hearing.
The cruelty of life...
Quote from: winkio on July 29, 2011, 04:06:58 pm
that's not how the real world works. You need money and time to take someone to court. And your own mode of transportation. And something to do while you wait for the case to be processed before the hearing.
Well, shit. This is bullshit. This guy should be locked up in jail...
I know he should be. But also think about this.
If he was convicted and locked up. Where would I be? Or my mom? For sure we'd be out on the streets as we have no way to afford on or own this place and she only gets $600 a month from her disability, thats not even enough to pay rent in a cheep dumb let alone other bills. Only thing for sure we'd have is food thanks to my food stamps but that wont do any good if you have no place to live.
It's a double edge sword. :(
The only real solution for this would be to get him to realize just how much of a douche he is and care that he's a douche enough to want to change. A dam near impossible task for most douches I know.
I'm so sorry. I know soon I'll be getting a pre paid gift card. My plans for it was to pitch on on the hosting bills with Branden. If he's alright with it, its going all to you. :3
Quote from: game_guy on July 29, 2011, 05:20:36 pm
I'm so sorry. I know soon I'll be getting a pre paid gift card. My plans for it was to pitch on on the hosting bills with Branden. If he's alright with it, its going all to you. :3
I have DM covered until December 27th next year, and will get it covered again before that.
So please, give it all to her. :D
Oh guys, you are all to kind, thank you! I never imagined I'd see such support, it makes it harder to think that very soon I'll be poofing away from all of you :(
A gift card? How would that work, less you plan mailing it directly?
Quote from: Taiine on July 29, 2011, 05:50:25 pm
Oh guys, you are all to kind, thank you! I never imagined I'd see such support, it makes it harder to think that very soon I'll be poofing away from all of you :(
A gift card? How would that work, less you plan mailing it directly?
A prepaid gift card works like a credit card, and as such, can be used on the internet. So what he'd do is donate to your paypal with it.
Also, I'm gonna miss you a lot. ;-;
Ah! Though I wouldn't object to having it mailed out. Something like that be useful when I'm made to go walking in these darn plazas all day. (can stop for food!)
I know, I love this community and all of you!
This really sucks. I'm afraid I can't do much for the moment because of paypal, bank accounts and age restrictions. However, I've been looking at the stories you've posted and apologies if this is too personal, but if you could reveal a little more about your step-father (in as objective a manner as you can manage) I might be able to give you some more advice.
Set up my PayPal. I just have to wait for my "two small deposits of less than a dollar" to show so that I can confirm it...
Not sure what info I can give... lets see...
Tom is his name, but I like calling him the ASS. He's a tall big guy and works security at nights, no gun, thank god. I'd be terafied if he was issued a gun. :(
I think I've said this before, he is a very VERY strict type, what he says goes, no if and's or buts. He has to be always right about everything and is a 'know it all' type so god forbid you prove him wrong on something or disagree with what he says. He is extreamly easy to anger with a hefty temper and any little thing he turns it into an argument.
Example we had a black trash bag of papers he brought home from work. Mom asked him what it was, just a simple 'what is this bad/what is in it'. Tom starts by saying it's full of papers but then it quickly escalates into him yelling that 'just move it toss it up on the box's, quit your arguing that it's in the way' bla bla bla... when all that was asked was 'what is this'.
Another example was when I had a doctor appointment, the night before I took a shower got cleaned up and all. After my appointment when in the car Tom blows up at me about next time I better fucking shower and crap, mom and I are telling him I did shower and hes saying I didn't because I have FLAKES all over the back of my shirt from 'dandruff' so I must not have showered at all and that it 'embarrassed him'. We again keep telling him yes I did shower, it's fucking Psoriasis, I can't help but flake 24/7! Even directly after a shower! Then he gets on that I should have changed my cloths. Another WTF, I did change, how does a light blue shirt with orcas on the front turn into a light brown shirt with white leaf patterns. Plus jean shorts into light long tan pants?! He's fucking BLIND. But ohh no he gets pissed because we are contradicting what he believes to be true.
In fact just last week he raged at me for 'never showering' when I had just gotten out of the shower an hour prier, my hair was still damp! But then he sleeps all day yet still think's he knows wtf's going on.
You can try and have a simple conversation with him and he'll turn around and accuse you of yelling and arguing with him and how 'he don't need that shit' when no one was doing any of the sort.
This goes hand in hand with him being a controlling type, again everything he says goes, you don't dare go against what he says or not do what he tells you to do.
He's very old fashion and apparently looks is everything, we are representing HIM when we go out so by god we better fucking look our best! So me flaking everywhere is god fucking forbiden or he RAGES! We are also a WORKING family as he loves to exclaim so everyone has to be IN BED and SLEEPING by a certan hour. Oh, everyone but Shawn who even on work nights can stay up till 4am playing computer games, and himself but then he fucking sleeps all day anyway. But then Shawn is his pride and joy, his blood son who is going to school online and making something of himself! Unlike me who is a free loader who sits on my ass all day and does nothing but play silly games or draw stupid pictures on the computer who knows nothing of the world. Love to know where he gets his logic.
If I so much pause in my searching for work, to look at something, even looking at youtube for music or god forbid pop a game window open he thinks thats all I've been doing all day even if I've been looking for work from the time I first work up until late in the evening. Even when hes SEEN me looking for work, if I later on try and do anything else he assumes I've been doing nothing but playing stupid games.
OH. Apparently because I have no job I must not know anything either. Another example. He's accusing me because our internet runs slow because I have SO MANY WINDOWS open on my laptop. You know, Firefox, Notepad with our addy and info so I can just copy and paste it into apps to save time, maybe MSN...
Oh no I can only ONLY have ONE thing open at a time, including the little icons by the clock? THEY HAVE TO BE GONE, because EVERYTHING OPEN slows down the internet! God forbid it's not maybe that virus that keeps circling through the net from HIS computer. Shawn has even jumped on his comp when he's at work and there is so much bs crap running on it no wonder it's fucking slow for HIM. His comp is also OLD, it can only run XP, it's not even set up for anything more then that. But no it's MY fault because I have NOTEPAD open along with a browser window thats making the net so slow!
But oh I DON'T HAVE A JOB I must not know about this! So how many computers did he build from scratch? How many networks has he administrated? How many has he set up? How many OS's has he installed? How many bad HD's has he dived in with DOS to retrieve files?
Yeah I must not know a THING about computers because I don't have a JOB. >.>
He is also a work-o-holic, and is just pushing me hard to find a job and even though I've put in over 90 apps in the last two months, plus calling places, PLUS walking around plazas, acuses me of not trying hard enough, or at all to where now hes saying hes not going to spend any more money on me once Shawn leaves so if I run out of something I am shit out of luck, all in hopes of pushing me to work harder to get a job.
Not sure what more I can say about him. Aside that his biggest hobby is to assume this, assume that, everything he says is right, we are all dumb fucks who couldn't tie our own shoes with out his oh mighty godlyness directing our every move!
>.>
well that is hardly objective :P. but I think the point is all too clear.
Not sure how to do it in an objective manner ^^; I'm more up to front with things.
Quote from: Taiine on July 29, 2011, 05:50:25 pm
Oh guys, you are all to kind, thank you! I never imagined I'd see such support, it makes it harder to think that very soon I'll be poofing away from all of you :(
I'm sure you'll be back as soon as you can. :)
I've had problems with my own father and he's not as much of an ass as your stepfather. Trust me, there is no chance in hell you can change him. I came close to maybe help my dad change, but I didn't make it. Your step-dad has a classic victim complex combined with a god complex and a incredibly deep-rooted insecurity based on the fact that he will be obsolete after nobody needs his support/money anymore. All of that together with him being as ignorant as one could possibly be about the actual situation, you get that kind of person.
Don't try to fix anything. Attempt to ignore as much as you can. You WILL get away eventually. After that break off all contact. Whatever he says, how much he tries to play the guilt-trap, don't give in. Don't care, turn your back. This can't be fixed, it's not in your hands, it's not your choice.
But before all of that, before you can break free, there is one thing you have to do: Let go. Let go of your anger. It's fucking hard, but if you don't do it, it will mess you up for life. You don't want that. A good way to do that is to post the stuff that bothers you. Just type it down and post it. It will make you feel better. You don't have to go around exploding at people, but you don't have to keep it inside of you either.
Even mom tells me to just ignore him. It's hard at times. Just ignore him and agree with everything he says as much as we can to avoide him going off.
I still dream of landing a nice job and finding me a nice small apartment where I can support myself and live.
Right now, we are in a heat wave, and he wont let us have the AC on because we don't need it! Fans is all we need! Even though we are sweating like pigs and even I got no sleep at all last night, sticking to the bedsheets and ugh. He just started an argument with mom just now before he left for work over her turning on the AC for a little bit to cool it off in here.
I so wish to get out of here soon.
Hang in there and don't lose faith. You will get out of there.
In the mean time, watch ponies. they will make everything so much better.
possible jokes aside, I wish you the best.
Have you tried to get a job which has nearly nothing to do with your education? Like dustman or suchlike? You've probably already tried this, but I guess every advice is helpful :D. But once again, the best of luck to you!
Another suggestion, and I don't mean this is a substitute for a "real" job, but an easy way to make a few bucks for your necessities, is to take paid online surveys. It will be tedious, long, and boring, not to mention you don't get much for it, but it will help a bit when times are tough.
I tried the survey thing and it was just a scamed rip off.
Even the one advertised on TV. You do them until you are just shy of being able to cash out, then all of a sudden you no longer qualify for the surveys you get. No matter what you answer that window comes up and you are exited out of it. I tried three accounts doing this, all of them ended that same way. So to me it looks like they want free labor and once your done? There's plenty others signing up every day to take your place. >.>
Yeah, I've heard many of them are like that. A friend of mine has done them, and hasn't had any problem, he actually gets his money and everything. I'll see if I can get a hold of him and find out which site he goes through.
On another note, what's your brother like? It seems to me like having him on your side would make your life a hell of a lot easier.
My brother is nice, and is the only one here who can stand up to the ass and not get yelled back at. He has literality told his dad to 'shut up' one day when he was arguing at mom over something stupid when he asked something as we didn't know wtf he was talking about. Mom asking a simple 'what do you mean' turns into him going 'look don't argue with me yada yada RAGE FACE'
Sadly he is the one who is leaving. :(
Well before your poof, we shall have a fun minecraft game. Creative or Survival?
Survival hard mode!
Also that card, sense I don't know when you'd be getting it, would you have an issue snail mailing it? As any money offers that come in after the nets cut will be stuck on my paypal until whenever I get a job to pay for the net again. :/ Likly the nets getting cut on the 1st.
Yeah sure I'll try. I just would hope nothing happened to the card. I've sent stuff through the mail so many times to come and found out the receiver never got it. I really, really, hate the mail.
I know the feeling. :/
Everyone connect nao!
209.159.212.203:25566
Quote from: game_guy on July 30, 2011, 06:35:22 pm
Everyone connect nao!
209.159.212.203:25566
I can't connect :(. Is the server already shut down?
So I just learned something that has me steaming and is also BS and was told it wouldn't be this way.
I can't withdraw anything from paypal. Not with out wither
1. A bank account
2. a credit card
I have neither. Not allowed to have neither! I was told I'd at least be able to ask for the money by check! But no they want a CARD NUMBER! How much more can I be screwed over in my lifetime?!
Trying to get mom to let me use her bank card. But that's fun seeing how she don't believe paypal is 'real money;. >.>
wow, that really is stupid. well hopefully it works out, perhaps try explaining that paypal is essentially a debit-card service that act as a intermediary between online sellers and your money so the online sellers never get your information. it's is basically developed into a way for people online to send money to each other.
Okay, that got sorted out. I showed mom my paypal and explained that yes this is real money I just need her bank card to prove that this is our address. It took some convincing (there worried that I'd be able to take money out of their account) and letting her read the information in the help setcion she allowed me (with out the ass knowing) to use her card.
So I have been able to request paypal to mail me out a check and it should get here in 1-2 weeks.
So all is good thank god. This money will go tward's buying personal items for myself, as well as act as buss fair for me to go here and there while on my hunt for work. Thank you everyone. *HUGS ALL*
On top of this I was able to also get in a small $50 freelance commission for a simple website, so that will also go into this amount.
I am very happy for you. :)
Gonna miss you, though! ;-;
Good luck, dude. I'll miss you as well.
My brother leaves in 4 days. I'm not sure when the net will be cut off. Any time between tomorrow till then. So I guess I will try and enjoy my time online as much as I can until I poof out.
*hugs all* I'll miss you all when that time comes.
nice. good luck! We'll welcome you back any time you can get online. just hang in there until you can get out.
Good luck, Taiine!
Good luck. ...Hey, what country do you live in? If you're in the U.S and on the right type of service provider I could give you my cell number in case you need to talk or something. So you don't feel alone after the 'net goes poof.
I'm in south Florida. While I do have a cell phone it uses those phone cards, and it hasn't had one put on it in the last 4 months, not sure if the sim on it even still active. :/
Oh sorry to hear that. Want my number anyway?
You're more than welcome to have mine as well if needed.
And you can always come online and say 'Hi!' just for a second whenever you're (for example) visiting your brother sometime; I'm sure we'll all reply and support you if you have new problems.
Update: Shawn leaves early on the 4th. That means I have just tomorrow left... and then I will poof. :(
*hugs all and sobs!*
*hugs back*
My birthday is on the 4th. ._.
Quote from: Blizzard on August 03, 2011, 03:30:03 am
My birthday is on the 4th. ._.
That's an unlucky coincidence...
Anyway, I'm sorry to hear you'll have to poof tomorrow. I wish you the best of luck!
At least I got to play with GG in minecraft like we wanted. Shame his router is being a dick and not letting it run.
No! :'(
So a no on my phone number? ;-;
You can give. I just dunno if I'd ever be able to buzz it.
Shawn's finishing up his packing, he'll be heading off early in the morning. Taking with him the router (he bought it) and soon after, bye bye net. *sigh*
Just a notice. I'll still accept paypal donations. Could try and check back in from time to time by going to a library or a cafe that has net access. Any little bit still helps. I so hope I can find a job soon though >.<
Quote from: Taiine on August 03, 2011, 07:46:19 pm
You can give. I just dunno if I'd ever be able to buzz it.
Shawn's finishing up his packing, he'll be heading off early in the morning. Taking with him the router (he bought it) and soon after, bye bye net. *sigh*
Just a notice. I'll still accept paypal donations. Could try and check back in from time to time by going to a library or a cafe that has net access. Any little bit still helps. I so hope I can find a job soon though >.<
Farewell and may we meet again :D.
Good bye and good luck, Taiine!
I do hope all of this works out for you, and I regret not being around enough to get to know you. I'll see what I can do on my end, as I have friends and family in Florida, so, if I find anything out, I'll email you with what I know/find out. If you by some miracle get this message, my last thought to help you with interwebs access, is, have you thought about the net-sticks? They're as low as 15$ per month, and, if used sparingly, could help you tremendously if you can somehow manage to pay for that, after all other commodities have been paid up for.. You might even be able to have your brother help with that, if he's willing to. As to the Ass, well, I second what others have said already, especially the punching out his lights repeatedly.
I will keep you in my thoughts, and I hope you are able to keep in touch as often as opportunity allows. I'll pm you my cell number and e-mail address, in case either are needed, and able to be used. I was once in a similar situation, so I know any and all support can help. Take care Taiine.
I can tell you right now that your psoriasis wll only get worse if you keep getting stressed out. My mom has it and it got betetr the less stress she had in her life. If your problems with your step father don't get better it's gonna get a lot harder to get a job since so many people don't like hiring people with "illnesses" and similar excuses.
Mooching off someones unsicured wirless net right now. Quick Update.
With Shawn gone and me still with out a job we are now shy the money to pay our rent, and we are living month to month. We need $500 by next month or we will be given an eviction notice and be put out on the streets. That means we lose -everything-.
Of corse it's all being put on MY shoulders becuase It's ME who has no job and how I must not be looking for any because I've not gotten any calls when theres just -no one hiring out here!-
We need help... I'm getting scared... I don't want to end up on the streets!
This is a situation that I can't do anything about. You keep complaining about not having a job - it's not like I can give you one.
Please take some responsibility yourself. You can blame your parents, you can blame your city, you can blame every single person that has ever turned you down, but until you take at least a little of the blame yourself you aren't going to get anywhere in life. I want you to be happy and have a job and succeed in life, but I don't see how you can when you expect others to do it for you.
I want to help you, I don't want you to be scared, I definitely don't want you to end up on the streets, but I am not in a position to do anything about that. I wish you luck and hope you can make it through this.
I really wish I could help you, but I really can't spare any more money (got to spend it on gas so I can get to and from school). and I sure as hell can;t so anything about the job situation. the only think I can suggest is to try a job placement center. granted most of the jobs such centers place you probably couldn't do but at the same time they might be able to help, I can;t remember if you said you tried such a ting or not so...
as for what Winkio said I'm going to have to agree. complaining about the fact that there are no jobs dose nothing to help you. complaining to US that there are no job dose LESS than nothing as it's a waste of time. there is no point in distributing blame, your better off dealing with the situation and trying your best to find a solution. Don't get me wrong, we'll offer all the moral support you can safely absorb through the internet, but we can't do anything more for you.
I wish you luck Taiine.
Quote from: SBR*
I've donated $25.- too. I'm sure you'll spend it wisely :).
I'm really sorry to hear all this... Don't even the employment offices hire you?
Indeed, I got no reply to this.
Quote from: SBR*
Have you tried to get a job which has nearly nothing to do with your education? Like dustman or suchlike? You've probably already tried this, but I guess every advice is helpful :D. But once again, the best of luck to you!
Plus this. And I got no reply to this either.
Oh God. So what, SBR*? It isn't a big deal at all. She probably didn't even see you posted that.