Will be gone for a long while after aug... stuck in a bad situation.

[Taiine]

So... I'm stuck in a very bad situation.

My younger brother Shawn just got married and is going to be moving out the 2nd or 3rd of Aug once his wife (who's military) gets on base housing...

If by that time I don't find a job....

The net will be shut off, and I'll no longer be around until by some magical means I find a job in a state (Florida)  that has one of the lowest employment rates in the us.

Why is the net being shut off? Not really due to money issues, but because my step dad has "no use for it" after his BLOOD son moves out. Yeah the internet was only for him, me using it is seen as a 'privilege'. Even though with no net it means reducing my hopes for finding a job even more sense most places around ere only do online apps now.


I was even taken out to a plaza and dropped off, in the Florida heat and had to walk to all the places in the area... Those that didn't tell me that they were not hiring... told me to apply on their website.

So... I am screwed. I also just got a call back from one place I was so hopping for saying I failed their personality assessment? I can't apply again for 60 days, and by then their open position will be filled and my app will just be thrown into the pile.


I am sick of being ridiculed as a 'freeloader' by my step dad and treated like I'm a little kid by him, no joke, I'm 28 and he treats me like I don't know anything... Plus being treated like it's MY fault no one is hiring? He argues that if I was really 'doing it right' I'd be having a lot of calls and interviews right now. I put in over 90 applications both online and paper in the last two months, most these places are just 'always accepting applications' and are not actively hiring, but it's my fault still there not.

My step dad is the abusive type... the type that has to be always right while everyone else is always wrong, everything has to be HIS way and god forbid if you prove him wrong on something. But it's hard to stay out of his way at times.

My mom is often gets the blunt of his rage, god even asking him a question it turns into an argument that he starts. But she suffers from Multiple sclerosis and has no means to get away, she can hardly walk as is.

I am so stressed here. I wish I could be anywhere else but here, and even mom warned me it'll be worse once Shawn leaves.


So if by Aug you may not find me around, not on here, not by email, not even by messenger.

SO, looks like I'll have a lot of free time on my hands, more 'freeloading' to do and more being blamed for some how controlling the work force and killing all the jobs around. I'm gathering together all the XP scrips I can and making sure ones I use are up to date so I can at least spar my boredom by working on my game when not fighting the blazing heat walking from place to place in a hopeless hunt for work.

That and Minecraft.... least I can play that offline.

[winkio]

Ah the beauty of the real world.  Well, good luck with all that

[Blizzard]

I'm really sorry to hear about your bad situation, Taiine. I know how it is to have problems with your father. You're even in a worse situation, because he's not your actual father. I wish you the best of luck that you can sort out your problems. Hang in there. If you think that I can help you with some advice, don't hesitate to ask.

[Taiine]

I'm willing to take any advice right now... but what I really need is a job. A nice solid job that I can live off of and get the hell out of here and perhaps take my mom with me.

As is I get food stamps, but GUESS WHO CONTROLS THE CARD. Yep.. fucking step dad took the card from me because (again treating me like a little kid) assumes I'd only buy junk food and candy and crap rather than real food.

His blood son can do no wrong, doesn't have to lift a finger around here and neither does he. When Shawn comes home from work he goes right into his room and plays WOW on his computer, when step dad comes home he goes onto the couch or bedroom and SLEEPS all day. Guess who does all the chores? Vacuuming, mopping, garbage, dishes, laundry. ME. Yet he still accuses me of just sitting on my ass all day and 'doing bullshit on the computer'. I joke with mom saying it must be the magical pixies doing all the work around here.

Playing games or doing -anything- on my laptop that is NOT looking at job sites (and refreshing them and looking at them all over again x.x it don't take that long to go through them and look at the same listings every day) is pretty much forbidden. As is I'm sneaking just to type this. If I am not looking for work I have 'no reason' to be on my laptop.

My step dad's biggest hobby is to ASSUME everything. This going along with the 'hes always right' about everything. He assumes I don't take my arthritis med's everyday because he 'counted them' and there were more then there should be, ignoring that the bottle says take once a WEEK. He assumes I don't shower or change my cloths every day (I swear he must be blind) because I 'flake' a lot from 'untreated dandruff' when it's fucking Psoriasis and that I can't HELP but flake all the time @.x  (it's spread all over my face too, further hindering my hopes of finding a job)

So... ugh... this is turning into a rant. But it also feels good to get a lot of the BS going on here off my chest.

I so badly want to get out of here. >.<

[winkio]

Yeah, the job market is bullshit at all levels.  For example, trying to get a summer internship, everybody wants you to have a lot of prior work experience, when the whole point of getting summer internships in the first place is for students without work experience to get some.  You just have to keep at it until you find something.

[Ryex]

well, I fell for you man, I've put in over a 120 applications this summer and haven't gotten any thing either, also I have Psoriasis as well so I know exactly what that's like. I wish you luck years 10 years older than me so I'm fairly sure any advise I might give would be useless but I wish you luck all the same.

the only this I can suggest to make it better is to get him to understand that your not being lazy. as blowing up is far more likely to get you kicked out but perhaps just start selectively dropping chores until he notices just how much you actually do from day to day. of course you have to be careful that when he finally dose notice you don't get in to a fight and kicked out but doing nothing and just letting it happen wont change any thing. there are always risked involved in change.

again I'm 10 years younger than you and have never had to deal with a situation quite as bad as yours so take my life advise with a grain of salt... perhaps a few grains

[Blizzard]

Have you tried it the other way around? Instead of refreshing job sites and applying for wanted jobs, you could simply send out CVs to companies to would employ you based on your expertise without them actually looking for somebody specifically to fill a position. To my experience many companies do that. You could say that only the "desperate" companies put up ads. Google around to find companies where you could work (such as, IDK, NTH Media if they have a branch in the US). Most of them usually have a "Contact us" or a "Career" link on their main page where you can apply for a job.

[Taiine]

I have tried something like that Bliz, opening the phone book and calling places as well as searching places online.

I am three years out of a tech collage with a Associate Degree in Specialized Technology, majoring in website and graphic design. I also did freelance photography and have done photo shoots for sporting events, schools,  churches. I also have volunteer work under my belt. I also did webdesign freelance for 14 years prier to going to school to get a degree to further make it into a career. While in school we also were required a minimum one freelance job per term to give us the experience we needed.

But sadly with the experience I have, most employers don't see it as the type of experience they are looking for. A.k.a a 'full time 8 to 5' job experience working for a company even though one of my volunteer jobs was just that, though more like 5am to 2pm job (ASPCA, loved it). One such employer expressed their worry over a lack of 'full time' experience and even though I ranked highest on their HTML quiz, had nice code samples and was only one to bring in a book portfolio as well as a laptop to demonstrate sites in action... it all came down to that the experience I have wasn't the type of experience they were looking for. That is the only thing that kept me from getting the job.

I tell you, that was a crushing blow, a blow I've experienced with others as well.

One employer I found was looking for entry level -no experience required- people to join them in marketing, all training provided. They interviewed two people at a time... I was asked ONE question. 'How do you rate your communication skills' I didn't lie, I'm very good at it, I loved public speaking in collage and gave what I thought was a nice example of one such speech I had to do for one of my freelance jobs. But I could tell he was more interested in the other person who all he asked was 'when are you available to start'. Uh huh... I wasn't surprised when after just a few minutes from walking in I was walking back out... The other girl stayed for more questions.

Fucking stereo types.

[G_G]

I'm willing to take any advice right now... but what I really need is a job. A nice solid job that I can live off of and get the hell out of here and perhaps take my mom with me.

As is I get food stamps, but GUESS WHO CONTROLS THE CARD. Yep.. fucking step dad took the card from me because (again treating me like a little kid) assumes I'd only buy junk food and candy and crap rather than real food.

His blood son can do no wrong, doesn't have to lift a finger around here and neither does he. When Shawn comes home from work he goes right into his room and plays WOW on his computer, when step dad comes home he goes onto the couch or bedroom and SLEEPS all day. Guess who does all the chores? Vacuuming, mopping, garbage, dishes, laundry. ME. Yet he still accuses me of just sitting on my ass all day and 'doing bullshit on the computer'. I joke with mom saying it must be the magical pixies doing all the work around here.

Playing games or doing -anything- on my laptop that is NOT looking at job sites (and refreshing them and looking at them all over again x.x it don't take that long to go through them and look at the same listings every day) is pretty much forbidden. As is I'm sneaking just to type this. If I am not looking for work I have 'no reason' to be on my laptop.

My step dad's biggest hobby is to ASSUME everything. This going along with the 'hes always right' about everything. He assumes I don't take my arthritis med's everyday because he 'counted them' and there were more then there should be, ignoring that the bottle says take once a WEEK. He assumes I don't shower or change my cloths every day (I swear he must be blind) because I 'flake' a lot from 'untreated dandruff' when it's fucking Psoriasis and that I can't HELP but flake all the time @.x  (it's spread all over my face too, further hindering my hopes of finding a job)

So... ugh... this is turning into a rant. But it also feels good to get a lot of the BS going on here off my chest.

I so badly want to get out of here. >.<

I know exactly how you feel & felt. Previous situation when my parents were together, little brother and older brother never had to do anything. I had to cook most of the time and my mom didn't even have a job. At that time my dad was really the only person I enjoyed having around. My mom spoiled my brothers. Eventually my dad and mom starting arguing, and I mean a lot! Then out of nowhere a divorce. Was gone for a few months, me, my dad, and my little brother moving into a new house, took awhile to get internet. My dad's always working so again I'm stuck with the chores and stuff. My little brother still doesn't have to do anything and hardly gets in trouble. I've had tons of arguing with my dad and he acts as if I don't do enough. He says the crap I do is nothing compared to as he puts it "the real world". He's dealing with a divorce, lost a woman he really cared about. I myself handled the divorce part pretty well, never really liked my mom. Things are finally starting to work out though. Things with my dad are going a lot better and lifes finally feeling pretty good. Though a depressing off topic, my girlfriends moving away in a few days, we've been going out with each other for a little over a year, known each other since kindergarten. Meh.

Hey look! I'm ranting too! Anyways, hang in there, we all support you!

[Blizzard]

@Taiine: Aw, man. You're really out of luck. :/ Well, all I can say is that you mustn't give up. Keep looking, you'll find a job. I know you will.

[Taiine]

Thanks all... Yeah I feel like my back's to a brick wall. I've filled out a lot of online apps, called places, as well as walked around place to place looking for work.. something NOT easy with my arthritis in my ankles, knees and lower back. It took me 4 hours to walk a plaza in omg humidity!

I just about if not have covered every location with in a 10-15 mile radios from home. It's sad when even fast food has no openings :/ Most places that do are only looking for temp 'back to school' employees a.k.a students needing/wanting a small job on the side.

Bahhh....

Anyone want a roommate who lives in a state that may actually have jobs who understands it don't take every waking moment of your existence to look for work and allows some FUN AND RELAXATION every once in a while?!
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[Spaceman McConaughey]

I am incredibly sorry you're having to go through this.

Anyone want a roommate who lives in a state that may actually have jobs who understands it don't take every waking moment of your existence to look for work and allows some FUN AND RELAXATION every once in a while?!
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That'd be cool, to say the least. Just one problem:

"Mom, Dad... can a 28 year old woman from the internet move in with us?" The rest after that is pretty predictable.

[G_G]

If I asked my dad that and he said yes, my face.

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Seriously good luck man. Life's a bitch, slap it back. >:U

[Spaceman McConaughey]

If I asked my dad that and he said yes, my face.

Spoiler: ShowHide

Seriously good luck man. Life's a bitch, slap it back. >:U

Taiine is a respectable woman. D:<

[G_G]

I call everybody a man and a dude. Its typical retardation of the teenage language. Whens the last time you heard someone, especially a teenager, say "Whats up dudette?" or "How's it going woman." It seems odd. But I guess this is a special case.

Hang in there woman. :3

[Spaceman McConaughey]

I call everybody a man and a dude. Its typical retardation of the teenage language. Whens the last time you heard someone, especially a teenager, say "Whats up dudette?" or "How's it going woman." It seems odd. But I guess this is a special case.

Hang in there respectable woman. :3

Fixed.

[Blizzard]

"How's it going woman."

What's wrong with that? "Make me a sandwich, woman!" :V

[SBR*]

Taiine, I'm very sorry to hear this and I wish you the best of luck finding a job.

I have never had to deal with these kinds of situations, so I can't give you any advise but to make the best of it. Good luck and try to have fun nevertheless!

[Taiine]

May I rant for a moment? I think I will.

So two days ago I was made to walk yet ANOTHER plaza on a hopeless hunt for work, well more like three of them.. Not a shock to find no one hiring though did out apps in places that are 'always accepting applications' >.>

I started this at 9am. I finished at 3pm, though I hung out at a subway (no money for food sadly) for about an hour of that around noon because it was freaking hot out even with an overcast sky. I am baking, my feet were killing me and I was hungry and even feeling a bit light headed. All I had was one PP&J before heading out because he was in such a hurry to have me go and didn't want to wait for me to eat a real breakfast before he drove me down to the nearest buss stop.

When I finally got home my step dad asked how many places I went to. I told him all of them, because that is what I did. Low and behold the asshole accuses me a lieing and states AND I QUOTE "You could not have walked all of that in two hours."

SOMEONE TELL ME W-T-F?! Sense when is 9am, to 3pm TWO HOURS? Apparently once he got home from dropping me off at the buss stop he went to sleep, and thinks I was gone only 4 hours, assuming the buss trip took an hour to and from. No, the buss was only 15 mins one way due to the morning stops and 9 mins back with hardly any stops. >.>

On top of that he's bitching because I am heavily limping. Why? Because during my 'two hour' walk, I developed a blister on the bottom of my left heal that was the size of two quarters and due to a misstep, it burst. It fucking HURT (and is still rather tender today). That is also my bad ankle that has a bone that likes to pop out of place and grind, plus a fracture to the bone leading to the 'ring' tow that has never really healed. So yes I can't put much weight on that foot at all. Yet I shouldn't have any reason for limping around according to him.

On top of that we had boxed pizza for dinner. Medium ones, mom and the ass split one... Shawn? He got to take now only his half of one, but also half of my share. Leaving me with one slice, or a quarter of the pizza. On top of that the asshole suggested mom make Shawn something more to go along on the side!

I'm always the last one to get their share in this house, and that share is often a small portion. Hell I've already been bitched at for 'eating everything' when I haven't even gotten my share yet! The reason being when Shawn goes off to work he fills a large storage container up with whatever we are having. He's pretty much taking two meals with him to work and leaving me with the scraps!

Yeah, I've had a lot of hungry nights. >.>; In fact, today? Mac and tuna, and only enough left over to fill my bowl half way. Not allowed to make something else later on either else I'm bitched at for eating all the food in the house and how they don't have the money to blow to feed my ass.

I wanted to lose some weight anyway, but this is not how I planed on doing it >.<

Favoritism much?! Oh yeah Shawn is the BIG MAN ex-military (got out after a heart attack) who is *gasp* Doing an online collage to be an accountant! HES MAKING SOMETHING OF HIMSELF unlike me! Yeah like my Associate Degree in Specialized Technology, and my four awards mean jack shit. >.>; I would have been military as well if not being diagnosed with bad arthritis in my knees, ankles, lower back and left elbow. I'd never pass the physical.

Not like it would have mattered. I'm not related to the ass by blood. I'm just a 'tack on' that he gets to treat like a mentally handicap child because of my inability to find a job.


.....okay rant over. Got that off my chest....
Least I'm home alone right now (yeah never get to go anywhere unless it's out walking to find work) so I can sort of relax and try to de-stress (and sneak some fucking food!). @.x

I need to get a job and get out of here ;.;

[Spaceman McConaughey]

Last time I checked, humans are required to eat food to live. So here is my advice:

Next time you want to keep yourself alive(aka, eat some food), and you go and get some food, and they complain? Tell them, tell them you are not going to take their shit, and you WILL eat.
You tell them, how this makes you feel, how much it pisses you off. Do not take shit from anyone, not from faggot step dad, nor his faggot son, not even your very own flesh and blood mom. The fact she can treat you that way, over those two people sickens me. And something needs to be done. I am pretty sure there's some kind of law that punishes those who abuse the disabled, which they really are doing to you. It's sickening, seriously sickening. So probably try looking in to that?


Also, if I were in this situation, I would handle it in a way most would find extreme(do keep in mind this is not a joke, and I recommend you to NOT try it):
I would snap pictures of myself in the nude, crying immensely, with what appears to be the cameraman holding a knife in view of the camera to me.
I would then take those pictures and stash them anywhere my mom could find them easily, and then hilarity ensues as the dad is accused. But I recommend nobody to ever try this, unless the situation is really fucked up.
(and if anyone is wondering why I even threw that out there, it's just an option for when things like I said, get really fucked up and you need revenge)